Does standing mean I ignore what my spouse has done?

No. Biblical standing is not denial.

Sin still matters. Betrayal still wounds. Abandonment still hurts. Lies still damage trust. Standing does not require someone to pretend that everything is fine when it is not.

Biblical restoration includes truth, repentance, humility, accountability, and healing. God does not restore by hiding sin. He restores by bringing darkness into the light and teaching His people to walk in truth.

Standing means you refuse bitterness, revenge, and hopelessness. It does not mean you ignore reality.