Abuse should never be minimized, spiritualized, or ignored.
Standing for a marriage does not mean remaining in danger. God cares about truth, safety, justice, and the protection of the vulnerable. If there is abuse, seek immediate help from trusted leaders, qualified professionals, and appropriate authorities where necessary.
Forgiveness does not remove the need for safety. Reconciliation should never be rushed where there is ongoing danger, manipulation, violence, coercion, or unrepentant harm.